Why you should take care of yourself first and not others
When a serious accident suddenly occurs on an airplane at high altitude, the cabin is depressurized. In this case, the passengers have only 15–20 seconds left to save their own lives by wearing an oxygen mask.
Flight attendants always warn in advance that the mask should be put on first on oneself, and only then to help others. If you do not have time to protect yourself in the allotted time, you will simply lose consciousness and die.
Here it is not about heroism, but about ordinary common sense. For example, your child may start asking questions about what's going on around, why wear a mask at all, why is it the same color, why is it hanging from the ceiling, and so on. If he sees that the mask is already on you, he will most likely just repeat the same thing.
Or imagine a different situation: to keep yourself in good shape, you regularly visit the gym . Suddenly, your loved one ends up in the hospital with a serious injury, and you give up all your affairs to be with him around the clock. You take care of the victim, devoting all your free time to him and neglecting the need to take care of your health too.
For all those months while your loved one is fighting the disease, you manage to lose weight beyond recognition, ruin your stomach with constant dry water, and in addition to all this, you experience constant nervous tension.
There comes a time when you make a very unexpected, but right decision - to start playing sports again. It would seem why? Because you neglected your health for a long time. Because the illness of a loved one is not at all a reason to give up on yourself. Because you understand that caring for yourself and caring for your loved ones are by no means mutually exclusive.
There is a very fine line between being overprotective and just being helpful. Sometimes we care about someone else just because we are afraid to be alone with ourselves.
In addition to switching to the problems of others in the hope of escaping from their own, people often fall into the other extreme - workaholism . How tempting it is to go headlong into work and not notice anything around! Yes, this is often very, very pleasant, especially for those who are really passionate about their work.
We take overtime, stay up late in the office, start working on weekends, agree to replace a sick colleague so that we don't have time for anything else. Do you feel that something is unclean here? The way it is.
We try to hide from problems that we don't want to deal with. Problems that we really fear are ashamed and avoided. From those problems that are really important. From their own problems.
Learn to pause and stop overworking. Give your brain some breathing space, during which you just let yourself not think about anything. Yoga or meditation can be of great help here. We cannot share with others what we ourselves do not have.
It is much easier to give friends and loved ones joy, support and inspiration when they are within ourselves. That is why you need to take care of yourself first.