Book:- How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie- A Sure Way of Making Enemies and How to Avoid it
Hello and Namaste Everyone
It's Tuesday and I hope that you are doing good and staying safe.
Last week I shared my post from the book "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie and the topic was "You Can't Win an Argument". I could not finish the chapter this weekend and it took a slightly longer time for me to finish.
The last topic was very good and I am also not going through in series instead I pick random topics. Although all these topics are so nice and full of learning some of them are even better so I am covering such topics first and will pick the remaining later.
The Topic that I have gone through this time is "A Sure Way of Making Enemies and How to Avoid it"
You can tell people they are wrong by a look or an intonation or a gesture just as eloquently as you can in words – and if you tell them they are wrong, do you make them want to agree with you? Never!
In this topic author Dale Carnegie has expressed his thoughts about not pointing out anyone's mistake even if they are wrong. Being a human one can indeed be right all the time and there would be instances when you will release that another person is wrong. But there is no need to tell him because that person will never agree most of the time. People don't like to be treated this way and if you do then for sure you are creating an enemy for you.
In my opinion, it's good to help people understand their mistake but it's not that easy and if you do tell people straight forward then you should also be ready to face the people who are not going to like you. Sometimes doing good for others bring us badly and I think we should always avoid this kind of situation. It's better not to say anything about it even as this is not going to help us anyway however we can easily make our enemies all around.
There is a way that we can follow to make people understand if they do something wrong but please ensure that our approach must be diplomatic. Following this can help us to get the purpose done and there are high chances that other people will not feel bad. It sounds easy but I don't think that it's that much easy.
In other words, don’t argue with your customer or your spouse or your adversary. Don’t tell them they are wrong, don’t get them stirred up. Use a little diplomacy.
This is very true and it's quite practical in our life. If we follow it then for sure we can cut down many problems easily and using little diplomacy can be a great help for sure.
Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say, ‘You’re wrong
This line is small but has a bigger meaning and I will surely try to follow it in my life.
Thank you so much.