Better Life With Steem | The Diary Game | 27/02/2021 | Control over Life or Controlling Life

in Best of India2 months ago

What do you think, are you in Control of your life, or are you controlling life. Do you think there is a difference in the two, or does it sound the same.

Actually there is a very thin line between the two.
When we try to Control life, we become too rigid, we just want things to work out in the manner we expect and desire, but life does not happen that way, it has it's own terms and conditions. So when we try to control life, at large we find that it slips away more from our hands and at times we land up feeling helpless, because too much of control and expectation for things to operate in a certain manner can lead to big time disappointments.

Whereas when we learn to have Control over our life we learn to adapt to various situations and work out possibilities. Everything seems to be in our periphery. Even when things go haywire we will have the ability to be able to gather up and be in charge and that brings us in a position where we have Control over our life.
Ups and downs are a part of life, but more importantly is how we handle them. 2 people in the same situation will have different ways to deal with and those different ways will depend on how much control they have over themselves and lives.


Apart from the external circumstances of life the internal ones are the bigger challenges to deal with and the one major is Resisting change and going with the flow of life. There are times when we are fixed up with a mindset for things to happen and flow in a certain way in life and if we are not flexible enough to look at options other then the ones we are fixed up to we can land in a miserable situation. This happens when we want excess control over our own life.

When it comes to my own specific life; I will say that I have major part of my Internal life in my control, but that has happened with a lot of push and pull and not that it has happened very smoothly. I had to struggle out for it. But that's what it is all about, up to what extent you want your life to be within your own limits all depends on you. But still there will be external circumstances which will keep blocking the path and creating barriers.


Somethings happen and somethings do not happen; there is a good in every situation but one needs to be flexible enough and understand if there are deviations in the path. If we can do that I feel we will have more control over our life rather then controlling life. We need not control life; we need to live life with complete freedom and joy and take all the experiences of life keeping our own self in control with our actions and behavior so that we can get the best results of our experiences.

Family tie ups, laws, rules and regulations of the place we live, the external influences, we are all the time surrounded by so many situations and people. Be it our family, our social circles, the workplace people, the political people governing the place we live, the religious advocates, the hierarchical systems that we are all the time surrounded with, and all of these will influence us in some way or the other, but the most important is our own self influence. And that will depend on the choices we make in life. I always believe in LET GO and not holding onto anything, whether people or situations, because that puts me in a position where I am in control.

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I have realized to make it in this life, it is not easy. A lot of stumbling blocks abound but if we persevere and be patience, we will definitely make it.

Very informative.
Thanks for clarifying the difference between the two options. And I believe self control is very Paramount in having a resolute control over one's life.

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