If You Don't Like Yourself, You Can't Expect Others To Like You, Either

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"Learning a lesson in life is never really too late. And I think that the lesson I learned came just in time. I don't want to be something that I'm not. I didn't like being someone else. At the same time, I'm very glad I was. Because I found out something that I never knew. You might as well like yourself. Just think about all the time you're going to have to spend with you, and, well, if you don't think too much of yourself, how do you expect others to? That's what I found out." - Jerry Lewis, "The Nutty Professor" - 1:23:08

https://dai.ly/x32gl0r - This is a modern (1963) take on the old Jekyll & Hyde story, with a moral to it. It's really geared at older teens and adults, and isn't as comedic as other Jerry Lewis films.

I think that this is an excellent message to share, but it needs to be put into proper balance versus the current trend towards narcissistic behavior exemplified by selfies.



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Great quote and post. Thank you. I couldn't agree more. I've observed over the past 14 years, wether at work or in public, like a mall, there are many people that walk with their heads down, with low energy and as if life is a heavy burden. I believe one of the greatest detriment to human kind is a poor self esteem and a poor self image. If we have one, we never think we are worth anything and we just except what life hands us. How sad that is.

I've also read that it's very often the case that a CEO of a company is an attractive tall man. Why is that? Because he spent a great deal of his life getting all kinds of confirmation about how good he looked and it reinforced his self image, gave him confidence and allowed him to have starkly different life than someone not so genetically blessed. Isn't it tragic, that so many people don't end up having the life God meant for them to have simply because they end up with a poor self image...

I'm glad that you were able to appreciate this message! Thank you for commenting, too!

Yes, poor self-esteem/image is a serious problem. I started working on it when I was in my 20s and, although I've made great strides, I still work on it now. One difference, though, is I really don't much care what people think about my physical appearance anymore; this is not to say that I run around looking like a bum, though!

I've never heard this about CEOs, and I suspect that being told that one looks good is not going to launch one into the career path of CEO - more likely, a performer or model, politician or salesperson, or some other career where superficial good looks are "important." It takes a great deal more than just narcissism, or even just confidence in one's physical appearance, to be a CEO, and lots of people - attractive or not - aren't qualified to do it. I suspect that successful CEOs are usually experienced or have a degree from a high-quality university, intelligent and either possess high EQ (both social and personal), or are psychopathic. That said, psychopaths are generally less successful as leaders than their empathic counterparts...

Still, self-image is definitely important, and it is so sad that people spend so much time tearing each other, and themselves, down...

The point about CEOs wasn't to say that if you are good looking you can become a CEO. It's that often those that get great positive affirmation about looks, academic capability, or whatever, it can have a strong impact of their confidence and aid them in remarkable success in life. I don't think I wrote my point well the first time.

Yes, this I can definitely agree with. It is definitely different from your previous post. Thanks!