Can Really Listening Really Change How You Behave?

in #motivation2 months ago

A common mistake that many people make when presenting or leading a group is to act as if they're listening actively and genuinely. They might be talking and saying all the right words, but their listener's eyes are not really on them and their listener isn't paying attention. In other words, they may be talking for 20 minutes about a topic, but their listener is only listening for an hour-and-a-half. And what's worse is that after the long talk is over, the person who didn't listen is the one who has benefited most from the discussion - the one who got all the good ideas!


Sometimes, just by simply being in the presence of someone else, your mind wanders off. Suddenly you find yourself in a totally different environment, with new information and fresh thoughts coming to you. When that happens, do what you normally do - keep going back to the situation you were in to get it back in context. It's like this: You notice something else that caught your attention. Maybe a conversation or situation made you stop and think. When you return to that same situation after a few moments, you've made a connection and have another idea.

Now, many people think that by being a good listener is just to agree with what another person is saying, and then offering non-creative comments along the way. That's understandable, and yes, this is certainly a valuable skill. However, I believe there's something more to it than that. People will be attracted to you because of the quality of your listening skills, and you'll be able to make people feel comfortable around you.

So how do you develop this quality of listening? First and foremost, make sure that what you're really listening to is what the other person wants to hear. If you don't respect and pay attention to what they have to say, then you won't have any opportunity to learn what you can use to help them improve.

To do this, practice your listening skills. Try to always stay in the present, and don't give your opinions away beforehand. Ask questions to clarify issues and seek solutions. You want to learn to listen to the other person as they speak, not just after the fact. When you listen in this manner, you'll find that the other person is open to your feedback, and you can tailor your conversation to their needs.

When you think about it, this is exactly what people mean when they say that you're acting like a robot. You're giving responses to situations based on what they've said, and not based on what you'd like them to say. This is a problem, and one that you can easily fix. The easiest way to approach this issue is to start asking questions. Make yourself open to what they have to say, and then you can answer them accordingly.

Another great technique for improving your listening skills is to ask the other person to repeat their point. Asking someone to repeat something they've said will usually make it sound like you didn't hear what they said the first time. It also makes it sound like you're really listening. People are naturally attracted to leaders who are able to engage with them on an equal level.


These tips aren't rocket science, but they're certainly simple to do and apply. If you really want to be successful in improving how you listen, follow these simple rules. Good luck! And thanks for reading. I hope you've enjoyed this article.

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