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RE: Psychology Addict # 40 | How do You React to Your Own Negative Thoughts?

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oh ... ruminating! Very bad thing that is ... painful

Everything that has left the present moment can basically remain exactly as it was, because the past will not change anyway. What was said was said. Done what you've done. In Germany we have the word "post-think" - the opposite of pre-think. Anything you want to pre-think or post-think instead of practicing smooth authenticity at the moment an event arises is suitable for ruminating.

I believe that even talking badly behind someone else's back belongs in the category, especially when those involved carelessly - sometimes even with pleasure - participate. That is then public ruminating:) Talking badly about others means that you are not interested in a solution but only in confirming the bad opinion about someone. To confirm a bad opinion means you must find strong attributes which denigrate the object of discussion. In fault finding one can ruminate on and on. One subject leads to the next. Like a lawyer to make a case where actually is no case.

To answer your question:

I am Damian and Laura and also Bertha, Edgar and Martha. Means that depending on circumstances, my state of arousal and mindset at that time
determines my pull towards ruminating or distancing from it. I found myself a crazy animal as well as a wise judge.

I had times where you could have called me a best practice ruminator, filling my mind with garbage like I was the lawyer from above. Luckily I write most of my ruminating thoughts down and when I look at them later on I can see how biased and aroused I indeed was.

When I stretch my lifetime and observe the peak of my diary entries I can tell that I had high peaks during my puberty and within life crisis and other difficulties.

Writing for steemit is kind of leading a diary by analyzing other objects and not myself - it shows me the abundance of characteristics and also that everything which is a tendency of a person can be initiated as well as calmed down. It needs wise people to act towards a ruminator and if they become a majority the ruminating person will most likely stop doing it as there is not enough encouraging resonance from the outside to feed it.

Because, after all: to ruminate inwardly (in the sense of not able to stop thinking) requires to be alone, right?

Where meaning is given the potential for both ruminating and not ruminating is there.

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Hi Erika ❤ :)

You see, you are my Mathusalem. I like your idea of public rumination and found the example you used to illustrate it a very relevant one.

I respect the way you always manage to expand the context being discussed, as if you don't allow the individual to bear the burden on his own (well, you are a systemic counselor after all). And, yes, I agree with you: passive rumination require loneliness; or, perhaps even isolation.

I share your view about Steemit too :)

Writing for steemit is kind of leading a diary by analyzing other objects and not myself - it shows me the abundance of characteristics and also that everything which is a tendency of a person can be initiated as well as calmed down.

as well as the habit of writing down my thoughts and analyzing them later 😉

Much love to you :*

Before steemit I was writing for my hard-drive (except my special theme blog which is quite some time ago).

Very much so. I am a systemic thinker through and through and I think we are all feeding us back and forth. If there is no support from the system than things get boring and uninteresting for a certain topic.

What about you? Have you also thoughts about your own writings that some of them are deeply embarrassing and some you are impressed of?

Have a good week,

yours Methusalem :)))

I have, yes :) I have also noticed that when I write about unhappy times my writing is a lot longer and detailed than when I write about joyful moments.

yours Methusalem :)))
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