RE: Psychology Addict # 40 | How do You React to Your Own Negative Thoughts?
oh ... ruminating! Very bad thing that is ... painful
Everything that has left the present moment can basically remain exactly as it was, because the past will not change anyway. What was said was said. Done what you've done. In Germany we have the word "post-think" - the opposite of pre-think. Anything you want to pre-think or post-think instead of practicing smooth authenticity at the moment an event arises is suitable for ruminating.
I believe that even talking badly behind someone else's back belongs in the category, especially when those involved carelessly - sometimes even with pleasure - participate. That is then public ruminating:) Talking badly about others means that you are not interested in a solution but only in confirming the bad opinion about someone. To confirm a bad opinion means you must find strong attributes which denigrate the object of discussion. In fault finding one can ruminate on and on. One subject leads to the next. Like a lawyer to make a case where actually is no case.
To answer your question:
I am Damian and Laura and also Bertha, Edgar and Martha. Means that depending on circumstances, my state of arousal and mindset at that time
determines my pull towards ruminating or distancing from it. I found myself a crazy animal as well as a wise judge.
I had times where you could have called me a best practice ruminator, filling my mind with garbage like I was the lawyer from above. Luckily I write most of my ruminating thoughts down and when I look at them later on I can see how biased and aroused I indeed was.
When I stretch my lifetime and observe the peak of my diary entries I can tell that I had high peaks during my puberty and within life crisis and other difficulties.
Writing for steemit is kind of leading a diary by analyzing other objects and not myself - it shows me the abundance of characteristics and also that everything which is a tendency of a person can be initiated as well as calmed down. It needs wise people to act towards a ruminator and if they become a majority the ruminating person will most likely stop doing it as there is not enough encouraging resonance from the outside to feed it.
Because, after all: to ruminate inwardly (in the sense of not able to stop thinking) requires to be alone, right?
Where meaning is given the potential for both ruminating and not ruminating is there.