RE: Psychology Addict # 39 | Need For Approval & External Validation
Hello @abigail-dantes! Hope you're having a wonderful day :)
Confidence/self-esteem is not to be confused with narcissism! There are some people out there who are incredibly confident. They, sometimes, are unfairly labelled as narcissists. But here is the thing, there is a remarkable difference between those two kinds of characters.
That made my day! At least now I know there's still a chance I'm not a narcissist. I've always been extremely confident and that always made me wonder whether there's something wrong with that. I was always labeled a narcissist due to my confidence levels. However I have a lot of empathy and try to be fair to everyone regardless of their religious, racial, social or financial characteristics though.
This is not the same when it comes to narcissists, as their actions are generally fuelled by insecurity, inadequacy and fear of failure. So, you can see how social media can be a remedy used to alleviate such feelings. It provides people with the opportunity to quickly build a sense of belonging and obtain validation simply upon a ‘thumbs up’. Easy, peasy!
Sounds right, however I still think that this only works for certain types of average Joes who don't use their brains too much in the first place. Thoughts like this make me wonder whether I'm a narcissist or not.
Our need for approval and validation stems from our innate necessity to feel included.
That sums it all up for me, social media or not. We 're only human, even if you 're the most confident person on Earth, there are still insecurities lurking in the hallways of your mind.
Thanks for another thought provoking read!
See you around!