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RE: Psychology Addict # 64 | The Romantic Love Delusion.

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I'm not sure your post works. You're trying to apply a mechanistic approach to love - but love is, by nature, random, inexplicable...if you want really know about love you need know no more than Sir Walter Raleigh's words on the subject: 'Love is a durable fire, in the mind forever burning, never sick, never old, never dead and from itself never turning'.

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Hey there @rix2409,

Thank you for stopping by :)

What a beautiful quote! Thank you for sharing it with me here. That's is precisely the sort of notion I attempted to challenge with the evidence (e.g. divorce rates and causes) and theory (e.g. cultivation theory) I presented here. It would be wonderful if romantic love was how Sir. Raleigh's words describe.

Unfortunately, there are plenty social/psychological studies demonstrating that passionate love does not last forever. In other words, the level of passion individuals feel for each other in the beginning of a romantic relationship does not remain the same throughout life Ref. But, it's not all doom and gloom. For, studies also show that passionate love can both be regulated Ref. (it doesn't have to go from 10 to 0) but rather, it has ups and downs :) & be supported by companionate Ref. love from time to time. For example in times of intimacy difficulties <3

Of course, this all depends on how committed each partner is to one another and the relationship itself. A commitment that , from what rates of divorce reasons show, is often left aside due to the very notions people hold about what romantic love is/entails. As they often feel let down.

Anyways, thank you once again for your feedback! :D

Best,
Abigail