June 30 Days Writing Challenge - Life Hacks - Day One: Avoid Fighting With A Simple Visualization Technique
Hello and welcome to the fist day of the June 30 days writing challenge. If you want to know all the details about this specific challenge, have a look at the introductory post. In short, I will be posting every day a short tip, or technique, or opinion, something that you can call a "life hack". Feel free to join the challenge and post your own life hacks. I will do my best to upvote each day at full strength (about $3 at the current STEEM price) 3 posts tagged #challenge30days (leaving a link to your posts in the comments will also help).
Avoiding Fighting With "The Toilet Rush Technique" And Why Is This Important
For a good amount of years I've been in very stressful situations. I worked as journalist for 7 years when I was in my early twenties, then became an entrepreneur. In all of these contexts I related heavily with other people. Getting to disagree on something was just a matter of time, given how many interactions I had per day.
In the first years, I was giving in to anger quite a lot and ended up in heated arguments with people with whom I disagreed almost daily. What an enormous waste of time! I still look back with regret at those times.
After a certain age, probably late in my thirties, I devised this simple - and somehow hilarious, you'll see - technique for avoiding fighting. It saved me a lot of time, improved my health and overall approach to life.
It's called "the toilet rush" and it basically goes like this: do you remember how you behave when you're really, really, really feeling the need to go to the toilet? The pressure? The immediacy of the act? The potential shame if you would be caught doing this in public? Well, keep that in mind for a few seconds.
Now, every time somebody says something bad to you, imagine them in that situation. Imagine they're just giving in to that pressure and they are simply unloading all the emotional waste in public. Those nasty words were just so pressuring, that they couldn't hold them in themselves anymore and pooped them in front of you.
How those people look like to you now? Still frightening? Still worthy of a fight? Or just like normal people, who don't even know they just pooped in public? Believe me, you won't start an argument with anyone if you can really keep this image in your mind. There's this incredible change in status if you can imagine anybody in a vulnerable situation - and sitting on a toilet is one of the most vulnerable spots we can be in.
Add to this the "smell". Do you still wanna be around all that waste that they just throw out in front of you? Or you'd be far better just walking away, silently, to a fresher place?
Needless to mention that this works not only in real life situations but also on social media. This person just said something nasty about you? Well, it surely does stink. Maybe you should move on to a cleaner feed, then?
So, really curious to read about your life hack today. Leave a comment with a link to your post, if possible.
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I'm a serial entrepreneur, blogger and ultrarunner. You can find me mainly on my blog at Dragos Roua where I write about productivity, business, relationships and running. Here on Steemit you may stay updated by following me @dragosroua.
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